After much thinking, I have decided my first blog will be on marriage! This is a subject that really can get me fired up :) My husband and I will be married 3 years in September and it has honestly be wonderful. Prior to our wedding, we were warned about how hard it was going to be. We hadn't dated long...less than 6 months. I knew what I wanted. I had a standard and that standard was CLEARLY defined by the Word of God. Greg and I tackled all the hard subjects in the first 2 weeks of dating. We both were clearly looking for a marriage partner. But also important was were we both saw our lives going, how we might want to raise our children, how finances should be handled, roles of males and females in a relationship....we addressed it all. We talked for hours and hours.
After Greg proposed and we announced we were going to get married (we had been dating only about 4 months), I was met with a lot of criticism from people I thought cared about me. I was told there was no way I could have a successful marriage after just knowing him that short period of time. Marriage is too hard. It takes too much work. Well, after 3 years, the work that I have learned is in me. I can get as mad as I want about anything I see as a fault in him....but the problem is really me. If I work to be the spouse that I would want to be married to, the I will have a wonderful marriage.
I have watched so many people give up on their marriage out of selfishness. Your spouse should be first in your life..before your parents, your kids, your work, your friends, anything other than God. It is amazing at the joy and happiness that can come from marriage. But it starts with you. And it starts with a decision. Your situation may not change overnight. But choose to see the best in your spouse.
Divorce is never God's will. In marriage, God made two people one. There are situations (abuse, adultery) where it is understandable. But between two Christians, divorce is to be avoided at all costs. Two Christians that are truly seeking God will never seek divorce. So seek God. He is your answer for anything.
